The Long Table
Family life across two homes
A British magazine about the practical side of family life when one family runs across two homes: the week, the handover, the school bag and the weekend.
- 6Sections
- 48Articles
- 15 SeptemberLatest piece
Where to start
Six ways in
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The shared weekCo-parenting
Plans, calendars, handovers and the messages that hold a shared week together.
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From their sideChildren and change
School, listening, screens and time together: change from the child's side of the table.
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The practical layerTwo homes
Bedrooms, budgets, paperwork and the habits that keep two households in step.
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Out of the houseFamily life in Devon
Exeter, the coast and the moor: days out that survive rain, budgets and short weekends.
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The other halfParents' wellbeing
Sleep, routine, reading and support for the adult half of the arrangement.
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Recently published
Newest first
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· Co-parentingDocket, decision, story: three different things
A docket is a list of what happened in court. A decision is a ruling. The story told afterwards is neither. A plain guide to Maine court records.
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· Parents' wellbeingA civil claim in plain terms
What each side in a civil claim is actually asking for, why the paperwork decides more than the argument, and how a dispute takes shape.
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· Two homesWills, trusts and probate, asked plainly
What a will does, what a trust does, who each one names, and where the signed copy lives. A plain guide for families in two homes.
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· Two homesBooking the room for a family party
Numbers, timing, sound and food: the practical questions that decide whether a family party evening works, asked before you sign anything.
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· Parents' wellbeingOne habit that survives a hard term
A single repeated habit for parents whose week is already full, with a short version for the hardest weeks and a way to restart after missing days.
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· Two homesBirth cards when a family lives in two homes
Who goes on the card, what the wording has to carry, and how the news travels when a baby arrives into a family spread across two homes.
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· Two homesWhen an older relative moves address
A practical guide for families when an older relative moves into a care home: visits, the room, paperwork and keeping everyone in touch across one more address.
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· Parents' wellbeingWhat to bring to a child's first appointment
A calm checklist for a child's first visit to a new family practice, from dates and notes to questions, annual exams and the patient portal.
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· Children and changeOne book, one language, one voice
A reading day for the whole family: what Día is, where it came from, and how one adult reading aloud in one language keeps a household together.
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· Co-parentingPaperwork that works in two homes
Which details change when a family runs across two addresses, where to keep the folder, and how both homes hold the same version of every form.
From the shelf
Still worth reading
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The NotebookPhotos in a two-home family: who owns what
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Co-parentingAsking a Georgia agency for its records
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The NotebookThe fixed point in a crowded week
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The NotebookKeeping a family record that stays honest
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Children and changeA pot that lives in two homes
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Children and changeThree Adults, One Evening a Week
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The NotebookGathering a scattered family
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Parents' wellbeingJoining things when you are new
Earlier in the year
The back pages
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· Children and changeTwo homes, one fixture list: sharing an activity season
Rehearsals, fixtures, fees and lifts: the second calendar laid over the family one.
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· Two homesThe second home question, asked properly
Before buying far away, read how the market runs: its rules, its costs and its paperwork.
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· Family life in DevonA free hour on the coast path: watching the sea
A clifftop, an hour and a leaving time agreed in advance. The cheapest outing on the coast.
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· Two homesTwo homes, one checklist: windows and doors
Two houses, one checklist: the seasonal pass over windows and doors, and the papers to keep.
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· Two homesOne small wardrobe, two homes
A compact set of hard-wearing clothes that travels beats a duplicated wardrobe in each house.
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· Family life in DevonA child's first produce show: reading the benches
A cheap shared Saturday: classes, staging, judging, and whether a family can enter.
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· Parents' wellbeingA shed of one's own: winter projects for a two-home week
Slow work that forgives absence: the projects that suit a house which empties and fills.
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· Children and changeWhen a teenager spends a term abroad
A few weeks abroad is a familiar shape for a two-home family. What parents actually prepare.
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· Co-parentingWriting a parenting plan that both homes can follow
Short, specific and dull is the target. What belongs in a written plan and what does not.
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· Co-parentingA shared family calendar that both homes can trust
One calendar, two households, and the three habits that decide whether anyone looks at it.
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· Two homesSmall habits that steady a week across two homes
The short practical habits that do the most work: the bag, the Sunday look, the spare kit.
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· Children and changeThings to do with children when the visit is short
An afternoon is not a holiday. Why doing less works better, and what to do instead.
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· The NotebookThe September reset in family routines
September rearranges a household more thoroughly than New Year. What to fix early.
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· Two homesKeeping family paperwork in order across two homes
Passports, medical cards and school letters: where the paperwork lives, and who holds it.
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· Family life in DevonThings to do in Exeter with children
The quay, the parks, the museum and the river path, arranged for a walkable weekend.
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· Co-parentingHandovers that work between two homes
The handover sets the tone of the week. Where, how long, and the three sentences that help.
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· Parents' wellbeingWhere separated parents find support in Britain
A plain map of the kinds of help that exist, and the order people usually find them in.
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· Children and changeSchool life across two homes
Contact records, kit, homework and Monday mornings, when a child lives in two houses.
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· Two homesBudgeting when a family runs two households
Two homes cost more than one. Seeing where it goes, and keeping the conversation dull.
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· Children and changeAsking children how it is going, and hearing the answer
How to ask without putting a child in the middle, and what to do with the answer.
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· Family life in DevonRainy day outings in Devon with children
When the forecast collapses: indoor places that work, and wet walks worth doing anyway.
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· Co-parentingWriting messages that keep two homes working
Short, factual, dull. Passing information between homes without starting anything.
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· Children and changeScreen time that works across two homes
Two homes will never have identical rules. What matters, and what really does not.
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· Two homesGiving a child a bedroom in both homes
A second room is not a copy of the first. What a child needs, and what to do without one.
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· The NotebookHalf term across two homes
Too short to be a holiday, too long to improvise. The two decisions worth making early.
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· Parents' wellbeingSleep and routine when the week has two halves
A week that is full then empty plays havoc with habit. Giving both halves a shape.
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· Family life in DevonDevon beaches with young children
Sand, shingle, tides and car parks. What suits small children and how long a beach day lasts.
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· The NotebookKeeping a family journal through a change
Three lines a day is enough. Why a household journal helps when life changes shape.
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· Parents' wellbeingChoosing a family book that actually helps
How to tell a useful book about family life from a merely persuasive one.
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· The NotebookReading news about family life carefully
Coverage of family policy is written to be striking. How to read it without alarm.
About this magazine
In one paragraph
The Long Table is written for British households where one family life runs across two front doors. It covers the practical layer and nothing else: the written parenting plan, the shared family calendar, the four minute handover on the doorstep, the second bedroom and the wet Saturday that has to be filled somewhere in Devon.
Everything is in British English and everything is checked before it is printed. What we will not do is offer legal or clinical advice, a limit set out in our editorial policy. Readers who want the fuller account can read about the magazine, and anyone with a correction or a suggestion can reach the desk on the contact page.
The pages we keep on the table
Checked and kept close
These are the pages we return to when a week needs a plan, a room needs setting up or a child needs listening to, so they stay close at hand as the magazine grows.
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Guide · Co-parentingWriting a parenting plan that both homes can follow
A practical starting point for agreeing the ordinary details before they become Friday afternoon arguments.
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Reference · Co-parentingA shared family calendar that both homes can trust
The simple reference page for school dates, handovers and the small appointments that otherwise fall between houses.
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Article · Co-parentingHandovers that work between two homes
The short doorstep routine that keeps a change of house from becoming the main event of the week.
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Reference · Two homesA child's bedroom in both homes
What makes a room feel ready without asking two households to furnish an identical life.
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Guide · DevonThings to do in Exeter with children
A dependable walkable plan for the weekend when the children are with you and the weather will not decide for you.
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